Adolescents experience stages in maturing when they gravitate towards the same sex for identity adaptation and emotional bonding. Teens need to know this is what is normal. We desire emotional connections during these teen years. Everyone experiences this stage of life.
Sadly though, today’s open culture tends to push youth into sexual experimentation as if anything is okay. Then we put labels on those emotions of our youth. But, labeling teens so early only intensifies their adolescent feelings before they are even capable of realizing the long term meanings.
It is perfectly okay to make these emotional connections and it is also very much okay to make a stand against social pressures to have to choose lifestyle commitments so early in development.
Teens exerience a great deal of emotional upheaval during adolescence that can have life long effects and extreme emotional repercussions. This fact doesn’t seem to make it into the conversations coming from the current cultural movements.
Teens need to know who they are in God’s sight—beloved, precious, and stamped with the imprint of His acceptance and delight.
Adolescence is a stage in everyone’s development. Teens need to be encouraged rather to speak about underlying feelings of disconnection with a parent, or the ridicule of their peers, or depression and sadness. These confusing emotions are relevant topics during the adolescent years, while being pushed to commit to lifestyles should be resisted until the child reaches an age of maturity beyond their teens.
The false, man-made labels of “gay” and “lesbian” are down right hurtful, false, and restricting. They can become like jail cells, making people feel hopelessly trapped in a state or condition.
God creates all of us with the need for attention, affection and approval, and those are the things adolescents are craving when they have feelings for people of the same sex. The needs are legitimate; we need to help them be met in healthy ways.
How relationships shape their souls is a function of their temperaments, their home life, and how they relate to other kids.
There is a great free, online support group for struggling youth, moderated by an experienced and understanding youth pastor, at www.livehope.org. Kids can safely talk to others like themselves and learn how intimacy with Jesus Christ brings healing and change to broken and wounded hearts.
Kids are being pressured to identify with their feelings. But, these are just emotions, fleeting and not in stone. Getting real is becoming who God created them to be, despite their feelings or of what those around them might say. Finding out who God says they are is the true path to being real and not fake.
When we label kids, we usually put it on those who don’t yet have the security and self-confidence yet to realize who they actually are, and they can go through the rest of their lives believing a lie.
God’s design is good, whether we were designed as a man or as a woman. There is genuine purpose and meaning to God’s plan for each of us.
Regardless of our fleeting emotions, or of social labels of cultural trends, we are each wonderfully and gloriously made. Made by a Creator in an act of love. His design is very good and in this we can boast, for he loves us still; yesterday, today and tomorrow.